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- AGES 1 TO 3
- No concept per se, but experiences separation anxiety and abandonment any time significant other disappears from view over a period of time.
- Coping means: fear, resentment, anger, aggression, regression, withdrawal.
- Nursing care plan/implementationhelp the family:
- Facilitate transfer of affectional ties to another nurturing adult.
- Decrease separation anxiety of child who is hospitalized by encouraging family visits and rooming in, reassuring child that she or he will not be alone.
- Provide stable environment through consistent staff assignment.
- AGES 3 TO 5
- Least anxious about death.
- Denial of death as inevitable and final process.
- Death is separation, being alone.
- Death is sleep and sleep is death.
- "Death" is part of vocabulary; seen as real, gradual, temporary, not permanent.
- Dead person is seen as alive, but in altered form, that is, lacks movement.
- There are degrees of death.
- Death means not being here anymore.
- "Living" and "lifeless" are not yet distinguished.
- Illness and death seen as punishment for "badness"; fear and guilt about sexual and aggressive impulses.
- Death happens, but only to others.
- Nursing care plan/implementation (in addition to previous):
- Encourage play for expression of feelings; use clay, dolls, etc.
- Encourage verbal expression of feelings using children's books.
- Model appropriate grieving behavior.
- Protect child from the overstimulation of hysterical adult reactions by limiting contact.
- Clearly state what death isdeath is final, no breathing, eating, awakeningand that death is not sleep.
- Check child at night and provide support through holding and staying with child.
- Allow a choice of attending the funeral and, if child decides to attend, describe what will take place.
- If parents are grieving, have other family or friends attend to child's needs.
- AGES 5 TO 10
- Death is cessation of life; question of what happens after death.
- Death seen as definitive, universal, inevitable, irreversible.
- Death occurs to all living things, including self; may express, "It isn't fair."
- Death is distant from self (an eventuality).
- Believe death occurs by accident, happens only to the very old or very sick.
- Death is personified (as a separate person) in fantasies and magical thinking.
- Death anxiety handled by nightmares, rituals, and superstitions (related to fear of darkness and sleeping alone because death is an external person, such as a skeleton, who comes and takes people away at night).
- Dissolution of bodily life seen as a perceptible result.
- Fear of body mutilation.
- Nursing care plan/implementation (in addition to previous):
- Allow child to experience the loss of pets, friends, and family members.
- Help child talk it out and experience the appropriate emotional reactions.
- Understand need for increase in play, especially competitive play.
- Involve child in funeral preparation and rituals.
- Understand and accept regressive or protest behaviors.
- Rechannel protest behaviors into constructive outlets.
- ADOLESCENCE
- Death seen as inevitable, personal, universal, and permanent; corporal life stops; body decomposes.
- Does not fear death, but concerned with how to live now, what death feels like, body changes.
- Experiences anger, frustration, and despair over lack of future, lack of fulfillment of adult roles.
- Openly asks difficult, honest, direct questions.
- Anger at healthy peers.
- Conflict between developing body versus deteriorating body, independent identity versus dependency.
- Nursing care plan/implementation (in addition to previous):
- Facilitate full expression of grief by answering direct questions.
- Help let out feelings, especially through creative and aesthetic pursuits.
- Encourage participation in funeral ritual.
- Encourage full use of peer group support system, by providing opportunities for group talks.
- YOUNG ADULTHOOD
- Death seen as unwelcome intrusion, interruption of what might have been.
- Reaction: rage, frustration, disappointment.
- Nursing care plan/implementation: all of previous, especially peer group support.
- MIDDLE AGE
- Concerned with consequences of own death and that of significant others.
- Death seen as disruption of involvement, responsibility, and obligations.
- End of plans, projects, experiences.
- Death is pain.
- Nursing care plan/implementation (in addition to previous): assess need for counseling when also in midlife crisis.
- OLD AGE
- Philosophical rationalizations: death as inevitable, final process of life, when "time runs out."
- Religious view: death represents only the dissolution of life and is a doorway to a new life (a preparatory stage for another life).
- Time of rest and peace, supreme refuge from turmoil of life.
- Nursing care plan/implementation (in addition to previous):
- Help person prepare for own death by helping with funeral prearrangements, wills, and sharing of mementos.
- Facilitate life review and reinforce positive aspects.
- Provide care and comfort.
- Be present at death.